Divorce
So I've been dealing a lot with Divorce and how ugly it can be. Now before i begin this im not the one going through it but a member of my family is, i don't think he wants me talking directly about him and his situation so i'll call him Joe for the sake of privacy. So Joe hes a good guy, his kids love him; adore him is more accurate, he busts his ass to be everything he can and still ended up on the short end of stick. Now on a side note i know a lot of divorces with and without children involved are messy and i also know from accounts told and witnessed that they can be simple and a clean break so to speak. But this is nothing like that, take Nepotism add in a pinch of devil and just a sprinkle of narcissism and you have Her.
Now im witnessing this as what feels like a bystander but in reality im right in the middle of it, seeing how I am in the middle of it. Literally! I've was in the wedding, i was there when they met, and I've unfortunately been a witness to the downward train wreck that followed. and to anyone who's reading this who has seen this or experienced this First to anyone who's gone through it and was the receiving party of all the BS and lies and torment I'm Sorry, from the bottom of my heart, I may have never gone through it (and i pray i never do) because what im seeing Joe go through and how hes changed as a person makes me sick. Second to anyone reading this to whom was the Party responsible and gave out the pain, all i ask is Why? Why'd you do it, what drove it to the edge, 80% i get are just "Incompatible" and honestly i don't get that either cause you got married how did you compatibility change after the words "I Do" were uttered??? but any-who, the truth about the ugliness with Joe's divorce is that it hasn't even gotten there yet, the children are still caught in the middle being used as pawns and ammunition, fuel for the what seems to be a never ending fire that's ripping these young children to there core, and what is sickening to me is that both sides are so caught up in revenge and petty bickering and below the belt stabs that the true pain is right in front of their eyes and they seem to be blind to it.
I want to ask you, the readers. Do you think that there is an Innocent side when it comes to Divorce Children or Not?
What are your thoughts about Kids being used as weapons and strings to hurt and bind the vulnerable party?
Do you ever think that there could be a simple way to deal with these issues?
Cause lets face it, as a society, and im not talking about just the US. We as a society are failing the next generation, when the chips are down and our backs against the wall we go to the Nuclear option without first thinking of what the aftermath will be and/or how long it will take after the dust settles for positive growth to form. I may not have children and i may have not been married yet, but i to am guilty of letting our next generation down, but there is always hope in the form of revelation, be it small or on a grande scale the smallest revelation can spark an idea and with that idea a nation can be changed.
"Our human compassion binds us to one another, not in pity or patrinizingly, but as human beings who have learnt how to to turn our common suffering into hope for the future." Nelson Mandela
Now im witnessing this as what feels like a bystander but in reality im right in the middle of it, seeing how I am in the middle of it. Literally! I've was in the wedding, i was there when they met, and I've unfortunately been a witness to the downward train wreck that followed. and to anyone who's reading this who has seen this or experienced this First to anyone who's gone through it and was the receiving party of all the BS and lies and torment I'm Sorry, from the bottom of my heart, I may have never gone through it (and i pray i never do) because what im seeing Joe go through and how hes changed as a person makes me sick. Second to anyone reading this to whom was the Party responsible and gave out the pain, all i ask is Why? Why'd you do it, what drove it to the edge, 80% i get are just "Incompatible" and honestly i don't get that either cause you got married how did you compatibility change after the words "I Do" were uttered??? but any-who, the truth about the ugliness with Joe's divorce is that it hasn't even gotten there yet, the children are still caught in the middle being used as pawns and ammunition, fuel for the what seems to be a never ending fire that's ripping these young children to there core, and what is sickening to me is that both sides are so caught up in revenge and petty bickering and below the belt stabs that the true pain is right in front of their eyes and they seem to be blind to it.
I want to ask you, the readers. Do you think that there is an Innocent side when it comes to Divorce Children or Not?
What are your thoughts about Kids being used as weapons and strings to hurt and bind the vulnerable party?
Do you ever think that there could be a simple way to deal with these issues?
Cause lets face it, as a society, and im not talking about just the US. We as a society are failing the next generation, when the chips are down and our backs against the wall we go to the Nuclear option without first thinking of what the aftermath will be and/or how long it will take after the dust settles for positive growth to form. I may not have children and i may have not been married yet, but i to am guilty of letting our next generation down, but there is always hope in the form of revelation, be it small or on a grande scale the smallest revelation can spark an idea and with that idea a nation can be changed.
"Our human compassion binds us to one another, not in pity or patrinizingly, but as human beings who have learnt how to to turn our common suffering into hope for the future." Nelson Mandela
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